Relationship Types

My friend told me the other day that he thinks I'm secretly a relationship person. If you've been reading this blog for a while, this would probably sound weird to you. I definitely emphasize being unattached. I always say I prefer the type of situation where I have a friend to just to hang out with, relax, have a beer, and mess around.

But I guess in some respects he might have a point. I tend to not have too many one-night stands, and I definitely value friendships with people I hook up with. I like to be able to have a conversation with the guy I'm about to fuck. In the past, when I have been in situations where there's nothing about a guy I can relate to, I'll make it completely about the sex, fuck em, and leave, but that's not the type of situation I prefer.

On the other hand, there's a few things about me that I don't think make for good relationship material. For one thing, I'm afraid of commitment. The most steady fuck buddy that I have now and I currently chat online a lot, but we only see each other once every few weeks, and there's no pressure to get too close, we've never discussed dating or anything. Still, my friend points out that I've been fucking this guy for almost a year now. But I've still fooled around with a few other guys since that started.

I think all this means is that I'm the fuck buddy type, which is something I already knew. I like being friends with the guy I'm fucking, but I don't like "dating" or being romantic. Am I open to the possibility of having a boyfriend? Sure, but they'd probably have to meet all the right standards perfectly. For now, I'm still not sure I know what those standards are...